August 06, 2013
No, Thank You, ME Newsletter, Vol. 6, Issue 32
“No, thank you.”
It’s one of my favorite phrases.
These days, with short texts, abbreviated emails, acronyms and general confusion over etiquette, the difference between” No” and “No, thank you” is more important to me than Miss Manners or Dear Abby might have imagined. I haven’t done any hard research on the subject, but, well, research and life are mostly subjective, anyway.
I don’t argue with a “No, thank you”… ever. If the conversation stops there, it’s fine with me. If an explanation is offered, it helps ease the doubt about the reason for refusal, but I won’t press. I’d much rather you stop right there than formulate some made-up, transparent excuse.
“No, thank you,” keeps the situation clean, unmuddled, out of the confusion zone. It’s far better than:
“Not right now,” which implies- later.
“Maybe,” which implies- possibly.
“I’ll think about it,” which implies the need to wait for a response.
“No, thank you,” implies graciousness in refusal – “It was kind of you to offer.”
“No, thank you,” implies well thought out standards, established limits and honesty – “I’m not interested, I’d rather not do that – or eat that.”
“No, thank you,” implies a request for acknowledgement of the right-to-refuse – “Please respect my refusal no matter what the secret or shared reason may be.”
“No, thank you,” is the crowning cap of a good, straight-forward relationship – valuable and invaluable.
One of my favorite phrases.
Posted by jaselin at August 6, 2013 06:51 PM